Monday, November 9, 2015

A Letter to the One Caring for the Chronically Ill Loved One

This letter is mainly dedicated to and inspired by my husband, who has never left my side and has made more sacrifices than anyone else in my life.  It is also dedicated to my children, who are amazingly loyal to their Mama and have been such an encouragement to me.  I also dedicate this to my own Mama, who has helped physically when she is able, but has never left her knees in prayer.  It is also dedicated the desperate mother out there who asked me if life would ever get better, if her daughter would ever hope again.....

Dear friend who is caring for the chronically injured or ill,

You are not forgotten.  I know what you are doing and what you have done for your loved one.

While she struggles, you love on. 

You keep on hoping for her, when she has lost hope.

You lay awake at night and pray, when she no longer has the strength to pray.

When she is angry and snappy and when her brain just won’t work right and she holds her head sobbing in desperation….struggling to see the other side, you extended her your grace.

When everyone else seems to have disappeared from her life and she feels the ache of loneliness, you remain fiercely loyal.

You keep loving when you are not feeling loved in return, or truly getting what you need.

You take care of the physical, emotional and spiritual needs of the family when she cannot muster the strength to get out of bed. 

You race her to ER visits, while praying and pleading loudly on her behalf, “Hasn’t she seen enough, Lord!?!”  and then carry the burden of watching the pile of bills becoming larger and larger, and you never say a word about them. 

You make sacrifices to be sure she gets the care she needs.  Even if it means so many other things have failed to help, you are willing to try that ONE. MORE. THING.

You have believed in her when others have doubted her.

You have just let her cry and feel angry about her state, and perhaps hidden your own tears and anger about her state.

You get spiritually, emotionally and physically tired, but you press on because of your dedication and your love.

You have brightened her world with your smile, your laugh, your faithfulness.  Sometimes the light goes on for her and she sees all that you are doing for her and she remembers….

Your love reminds her of the One who loves on, hopes for her, intercedes for her, extends her grace, remains loyal to her, takes care of her every need, sacrifices for her, believes in her, cries for her and forever remains faithful in her life.

Through your love, she is reminded that He loves her as you are trying to loving her, and she hopes again.  She hopes for the day when every tear will be wiped from her eyes, your eyes.  You are modeling the love of her God, and this renews her hope.

You are not forgotten.  The Heavenly Father sees the work of those who love Him, and He will be faithful to reward every, single deed done for Him and for His glory. 


May the light of God’s glory refresh you and fill you with His joy as you press on in your dedicated love.

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